April 1, 2014

Anonymous asked: This is the Anon who doesn't like April's Fool to be an excuse for being bad human beings. I'm good now. I'm just left with distrusts toward everyone on the 1st of April. Its took years before I finally got away from that cycle. I just doesn't like seeing peoples using April's Fool day as an excuse to do to others, what was done to me. Making someone cry isn't funny, making them scared or hurt isn't funny, ruining their belongings isn't funny. Be responsible.

You’ve put the issue better than I managed. Cruelty isn’t funny.

I’m glad you’re okay, nonny, and (because it cannot be said enough, apologies for harping on this,) I’m sorry that was done to you. It was wrong and it was cruel. The fact that you’re getting over it makes you a damn sight stronger than your tormenters.

April 1, 2014

Anonymous asked: To those anons thinking April's Fool is just simple fun. I will have them know that I was traumatized because Bullying would double or triple and then when getting back home with their "pranks" 's results I would get punished. So, NO. April's Fool day isn't an excuse to be hypocritical assholes and doing irreversible things to some peoples.

That sucks, nonny, and I’m sorry. You didn’t deserve that. Nobody deserves that. I hope the use of past tense means it doesn’t happen to you anymore.

Take care today, okay? And remember that you deserved better and don’t let anyone tell you there was an excuse for what happened.

April 1, 2014

Anonymous asked: Because you're a perfect human being who's never fucked up and hurt someone without meaning too? No, mistakes caused by the society wide under-education about mental health issues total make someone an asshole. Intent doesn't matter to the *injured*. Intent is the ONLY difference between someone who made a mistake and an asshole.

No, I’m someone whose been an utter fucking asshole, and gotten called on it. Because I fucked up and hurt someone because I was careless, and that was an asshole move.

Seriously, how hard is this to get? Doing this shit, out of malice or carelessness, makes you an asshole. Sorry, but it’s true. There is no magical ‘not an asshole’ card because it was by mistake instead of intent.

April 1, 2014

Anonymous asked: Because on April fools people tell LIES. And other people EXPECT LIES. They don't break each other's arms. Most people on April 1st would react to the "wake up" prank with - nice try, but its April 1! after a moment of confusion. Thus, most people don't EXPECT that someone might actually be hurt. Obviously they are *wrong*. No one should do it. But these people aren't actually trying to gaslight people for real. They're still wrong if they do it and hurt someone, just not deliberately malicious.

Being so thoughtless you can’t recognize the potential harm your actions may do is a form of being an asshole. One of the most common, frankly. Intention doesn’t matter - you’re still a fucking asshole if you pull that sort of stunt, and you deserve to be named as such.

April 1, 2014

Anonymous asked: ...on the holiday where you're deliberately supposed to trick people.

As a trick, I’m going to break your arm. It’s funny, see, because you weren’t expecting it. Why are you angry at me, this is the holiday where you’re deliberately supposed to trick people.

I hope you see why I’m less than awed by your logic. Basic courtesy, compassion, and morality are not put on hold for holidays.

March 31, 2014

Anonymous asked: I'm you last post you're confusing ignorance and deliberate maliciousness. Not going to make things better for the victim, but telling someone who's ignorant about what can cause a panic or anxiety attack not to be an asshole isn't going to prevent them from doing something stupid and triggering a panic attack in someone because they just flat out don't know what behaviors to avoid. That's why specific posts are good. A lot of people don't *want* to be an asshole, but they don't know how not to,

…People don’t know that attempting to undermine someone’s sense of reality is an asshole move? Seriously? I’m a socially inept virtual-hermit and I know that.

Like, maybe they don’t know it’ll trigger an anxiety attack, but it doesn’t need to do that to be an asshole move. It is inherently an act of an enormous asshole. You don’t play fucking mindgames with people for your own amusement. And if you need to be told that, then you have a serious problem.

(And if that’s setting the bar too high, I’m going to officially give up on humanity, JFC.)

March 25, 2014

Anonymous asked: Black babies are disproportionately likely to grow up in the foster system without being adopted because people don't want to adopt black babies. I'm conflicted by the post you made about not adopting black babies if you aren't also black because that just seems like it's going to exacerbate the problem. Maybe it's not ideal, but it seems like getting adopted by a white family might be better than growing up entirely in the foster system. Also, some people can ONLY adopt internationally.

I (and the OP) aren’t saying white people shouldn’t adopt black kids. The problem is, white people without black friends are going to have a lot of racist shit in their heads they don’t even realize is there. And that’s a really bad environment for a black kid to grow up in, especially since they’ll be cut off from a black community who can support them. If someone wants to adopt, they need to be able to provide and care for the child, and if they’re a white person adopting a non-white baby, that includes not making them deal with the adoptive parents’ (inevitable, in America) race issues.

(Plus, there’s a reason black kids are in the foster care at such a disproportionate rate: It starts with I and ends with ‘-nstitutional racism’.)

Adoption is not a right. It’s is supposed to be about the child’s wellbeing, not the potential parent’s fulfillment. And international adoptions have proven to be really fucked up as a result of the ‘adoption market’. Child trafficking, lying to parents to get them to surrender their kids, improper documentation, corrupt officials, outright kidnapping …

I’m sorry for the people who can’t have kids, but you do not have the right to a child. A child is not a commodity for you to buy. They are people, with their own rights and needs, and it is their wellbeing which must be considered first. And evidence suggests potential adoptees in the international adoptions are not always, or even often, being given that consideration.

March 20, 2014

Anonymous asked: Hi! I was reading your stuff about CIA Agent Janet and I was wondering if you had any plans to work in the fact that in addition to the... dubious legality?... of ordering a hit on an American citizen the CIA isn't supposed to operate on US soil when they put the hit out on Tim. Like, are they just going "fuck it no one will know"? Or is there something bigger at play? Does the CIA in your universe often put hits out on American citizens and/or operate illegally on US soil? Or this special?

Hey nonny! Glad you asked! To a certain extent, I’m half-assing it, as you probably guessed. I wrote that for the big bang, and the ending was rushed. I’m justifying it as ‘fuck it, it’s DC verse, they can’t even keep track of the difference between jail, prison, and involuntary commitment at a mental health institution, I can BS this’.

In universe, my justification is that Janet herself exists in a dubiously legal state. Her initial recruitment was shady as fuck, and so were many of her missions. She split from the CIA around Tim’s birth via blackmailing them by threatening to reveal certain details of missions they sent her on which were less-than-kosher, and only joined back up because her son and husband were in danger and they promised protection to get her back under control. Her unedited file, like those of several agents working for them, could get them in a lot of trouble with congress/the president if it ever came to light.

Tim being targeted is because of his connection to an external threat - Ra’s al Ghul, or rather, one of his many, many shell organizations which is associated with terrorist activities. The investigation of Tim himself was fairly above-board, he was a politically powerful young man associating with potential threats to the US. They started investigating when Tim was out of country, and inter-organizational politics resulted in them being still nominally in-charge of that even when he re-entered the states. Then the implications of direct connection with Ra’s came up, and that’s when the shit hit the fan.

This is something I need to work into the sequel, (and thank you for bringing it up, because otherwise I would have overlooked it) but in the DCU, certain ‘super-human’ threats, like Ra’s, Vandal Savage, Superman, etc, are really frightening to those in power. Which makes justifying action against them/their peripherals, stretching organizational mandates, and outright law breaking, all that more likely. Ra’s is an external threat, connection to Ra’s  appears, we’ll just take care of that. Wait, he’s back on USA soil? fuck it, do it anyway.

And that’s my explanation, which is 85% bullshit, 15% political critique, but hopefully plausible enough that readers will suspend their disbelief for a bit.

Thanks for asking, and sorry for the ramble. If you’ve got any other questions and want to deal with another wall of words, please send them. I love talking about my fics.

February 27, 2014

Anonymous asked: If there were such a thing as an alligator/crocodile woman/magical being, that'd be you! They don't seem to be that dangerous until you see them in action and are very caring creatures.

Awww. That’s so sweet, nonny.

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February 6, 2014

Anonymous asked: Sorry, but i saw your thing about Magic in the modern world and i was thinking if you Knew the Hollows series. They cover some of those issues, also, it has some good representation.

No, I didn’t! I’ll check it out, nonny, thank you!

Nothing makes my day like relative strangers doing stuff like this, you know. Recommending a series they think I’d like, forwarding a link to something they think I’ll find interesting … It’s just really, really touching that people bother to do that.

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